thanks NLW - it helped me to read what you described with your h. and it did help when you pointed it out as being part of the whole pic and to do with resistance
you're right - this is just resistance - and the less i resist, the better off the situation will be.
i'm glad i'm following the 48 hr rule - i'm putting it aside for now - s is here for a week and i can give him the does he needs, and meanwhile i think i'll take the lesser beaten track on this one. instead of talking to h about it, i just realized a few minutes ago, that i am just going to call the nurse and have her discuss it with s directly and let him understand why half the minimum dose is not enough. then i will let s assume responsibility for carrying it out.
some may say that i'm passing it on to my child - but what i hadn't mentioned before is that if h is resistant - s is mirroring him in it, and telling us that he feels much better when he takes less. i believe strongly it is because 1. he absolutely hates taking it and always has and 2. he's using h's resistance as a way to get around it.
so how abouts I do a 180 here and let go of the responsibility, for once. i've carried it in ways no one else can see or understand solo for almost 11 yrs - frankly i need a break!!
thanks again
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"