As for how my W is towards me (I still say W because I STILL have not gotten word back from the signed divorce papers - signed them back in January) it's been cordial to say the least. There are occasional moments of good conversation between the two of us, and I've been good on not initiating conversation. She's always asking how I'm doing and how my family is doing. Feels weird to see any sort of interest from her in that regard. Sometimes she's been down and I've just stopped asking because I know she'll just tell me she's fine.
WAS are interesting. They don't want us in their lives, yet they have no problem asking about our lives.
They want to give info but don't want you to ask.
d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't scenario.
Continue to validate her when/if she opens up. Make it a safe place to talk, but leave it up to her to take the necessary steps.
Originally Posted By: OmegaZed
It's confusing sometimes to see this semi-interest from her with occasional smiles when I talk to her, and then know she is still talking to this loser. Its kind of like she wants the attention and when he isn't talking her, she seeks me out. I just focus on my son, because I know if anything is to work out, I have to stay on my path and if she wants to rejoin it, then its up to her and her alone.
That's right.. it will be up to her. Continue to be the best dad/man you can be and let her decide....
.. and in the meantime really fight that "want" to understand her semi interest... it's moot at this time.
Originally Posted By: OmegaZed
Just gotta keep on keeping on I guess...
That's the best you can do OZ. That's the best we all can do!
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