as GM pointed out, the risk factors are not symptoms. I did have ppd after the birth of our 2nd child, about 5 days post birth and for about 3 weeks.
It came on so dramatically that I was actually cognitively aware of a really huge mood swing. A part of me was actually fascinated at my emotional swings...like "Wow, this is me on wacky hormone shifts"...but I was weepy and it was SO tempting to look for a reason for how sad & overwhelmed & isolated I felt.
Your unhelpfulness (per your words -sorry) was an easy target. When the social workers ask new moms what type of support they'll get at home (standard question)
she might have said "zero" and then seen that as her explanation for it all.
I had a sister whose husband left her right before the birth of their 3rd child. She was depressed right after the birth & I asked her if she thought it was PPD.
She asked me this: "How can you tell if you have PPD or if you are simply reacting to your truly horrible situation?"
Good question.
The important things for you to note are two fold:
1) nothing you can do about it and in fact the more you focus on this, the less you'll work on what you can change and on what matters.
2) this is unrealistic at this point now anyhow. She may be depressive but she's NOT having post partum depression NOW.
If she's depressed...so be it.
She thinks you are part of it and truth be told you probably were. You want to keep going over the past and flaggilate some more?
How about moving forward to being the Best Crimson you can be?
If you do date, At the very least, Do what is fair & honest for the women you meet...
your w MIGHT be testing you and if she is, dating won't win you points...
then again, maybe she needs to fear losing you, and dating could help that. So you see arguments FOR the marriage could allow you to date...and arguments for you to move on, could too.
In any case, do not introduce any OW to your son until if and when you think there's a real chance of her being in your life long term.
THEN & only then, (per my MC)
if she's NOT a GREAT step mom...she is out.
Any chance of Retrovaille? And I'm a bit behind on your sitch. What happened in court?
What's the latest in what SHE says she wants??
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
