I'm soery you are going through this. I know how hard it it. I also feel as though my H has just moved on without me and his GAL is far nore advanced than my own.
I am trying to GAL. I try very hard to not breakdown and cry every day. We are seperated and have been since Oct. I have stopped calling ans texting him unless it involves the kids and it must be a legitimate reason with the kids.
You have to decide on your own to help yourself. No one can tell you when or how to do it. Someone on here gave me some great advise. Set your wife free. Imagine how great you will feel knowing you were able to set ypur W free. I promise you will so much better than you could imagine. I did almost 2wish weeks ago and I feel great. My confidence is returning.
Good luck I will be check back on you.