Exactly JS. I let it go and started GALing the Sh!t out of my weekend.
Which turned out to be pretty interesting.. it may be TMI but I'll share as it may be a step others have hit as well.
Last year I set a goal to learn how to line dance. I'm not hardcore about it, but I do have every intention of being able to go to the bar and dance EVERY dance..
..however two stepping and couples dancing has always been last on my list.
This is for many reasons.
1) Honesty - I don't fit into the "stereotypical" lesbian. I'm kinda in the "There is NO WAY she is gay" category...
which caused some problems in my m... but I digress.. lol
so unless it's dancing where I feel it's about the dance - I don't really care to put myself or a guy in an awkward position.
2) I like to lead. That's kinda hard when dancing with guys.
Anyway - I figured I needed to get over both things... so I took the leap.
I need to learn to let go a little.. and had a ton of fun.
First dance went well... 2nd dance lead another and another....
... and I assume g/f's were supposed to bail you out.. but I was wrong.
Anyway, I got asked to lunch and I guess this is the relevant part to this board. How to answer the "Will you have dinner with me question" w/o sounding like a loser.
This isn't the first time I've stumbled over a similar question. I've just always failed epically....
... caz I'm not a liar so it's hard to answer it.
I told him I was unavailable. He asked who the lucky fella is.. and I said.. me. I'm the lucky lady and I'm just taking some time for myself.
He was like "I'm not saying we would build to a relationship. It's just lunch".
My response is... "Yeah.. but I'm not ready for 'just lunch'.
And YES I do realize that I could have just said.. "Thanks.. but I'm gay" but that brings up a slew of questions and honestly that is personal info that I don't scream from the mountain top.
I'm proud.. but not flaming.
The truth is that I am FULLY aware that I am in no way ready for a relationship. I've recently had to distance myself from my best friend because I was attaching to him like I was my w...
.. and right now... I need to figure out me.
Anyway just thought I would talk about it. If any of ya'll have learned awesome ways to say "I am recently separated, divorced, or getting out of a long relationship".. without sounding like a person with some huge baggage that would be awesome..
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
