Oh Advina, This does sound like one heck of a night.
But pretty par for the course, in my experience. I have a D16, and when the girls get together at night things can go pretty silly (throw in some boys and you can bet things will go really pear-shaped).
I, too, get tired and grumpy with my kids a lot of the time. It really is something I struggle with, as I'm pretty fragile these days.
Not having an H around to step in and help in these sorts of situations is so hard.
I used to try to get him to DO something - or, at least, I'd tell him about what went on in specific situations.
But after some advice on these boards, I took the view that he really wasn't in the right frame of mind to be able to contribute sensibly at all. So now I just keep my own counsel and deal with things with the kids as I see fit. Easier for me as my H is not still living at home.
