The trust thing is really tough, isn't it? For me, though I do not trust implicitly anymore (right now), I do CHOOSE to "accept" W's explanations, even when I am pretty sure she is lying (either fully or via omission, and looking back over the past year...oh, is she good at omission!), and she knows that I am pretty sure she is lying...if that makes any sense...lol.
I have spent a lot of time thinking about whether I will be able to trust again, either W or any new woman (trust IS one of my issues with ANYone)...man...it is difficult! The untested conclusion I have come up with for ME is: If I am going to live the full life that I want to live, I am going to have to risk opening up myself again to possible betrayal, lies, hurt, etc. I don't want to live always second-guessing, questioning...yuck, NOT an ideal for living, for me. That being said, though, trust is earned, and W or anyone else will have to (re)earn my trust via actions, and their words and actions being congruent.
A good thing is, if you listen to your intuition, which takes in all seen and "unseen" info, usually it KNOWS the truth, and it will protect you, either way. "You" know whether you can trust your H now, and I think "you" will know in the future if you can trust him (or any new man).
Sorry for the hijack..lol..guess we are even now.. This trust issue flared up for my this morning, so had to respond.
Regarding feral cats...have you tried changing up the food in the bowl every now and then? Maybe friskies mixed grill or ocean buffet...? lol.
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
This trust issue flared up for my this morning, so had to respond.