Sadly Returning

[Hopingtomakeit]

I know its only 8:44am. However, i seem to be holding it together better. I am ready to kick today's ass. I sadly have zero plans for the weekend. So, i need to find a way to GAL. Either way it should be a fun and exciting time.

On sunday, i got the meeting with her. I am going to buy a new shirt and sun glasses. (I haven't wore sun glasses in 10 years)I am hoping those physical items will give me strength. I am nervous but its time to have the talk.

[Hopingtomakeit]

tommorow is the talk. Due to a series of events we are sitting down and doing it at our home. I wish this would end and something would change......

sigh

[25yearsmlc]

what are YOUR goals for the talk? Hers?

Make sure you decide NOTHING then and there, but take her words and promise to think about them carefully. Tell her you need time to process what she said.

Decide nothing without sleeping on it and post about it if you are comfortable doing so.

[25yearsmlc]

One More insight.

I have been pushing her to make some choice and talk about this.

WHY are you pushing her to choose? You want a divorce? You want to corner her and hope she's going to back down? That's a bluff you should NOT make. BACK OFF...



If she wants the D lets tell the kids and talk about the finance stuff. I am hoping she will change her mind but maybe im not giving her the space she needs to work this out in her head.


BINGO!! you are NOT giving her time or space or making changes in YOU to show her what she's losing...you are pressing her to make it or break it and she's not up for "making it' right now.

So is it all or nothing for you? if that is what you push for, Get ready for the big nothing...

[heartbrokeinsd]

25 is right on. it will be nothing.

anyway... i love the idea of the shades. i love them. they somehow help me to be confident. especially if you get a really kicka$$ pair. the ones i wear i call em my "rockstar" shades. thats what they do for me. make me feel like a rockstar. that attitude, confidence, swagger. i may be a little off my rocker, but it helps!

[Hopingtomakeit]

So, this weekend has been a mess. I had my meeting with my wife that i really couldn't hold it together. I was just a sad and broken man. I did walk away once to pull my [censored] together. I came back inside and talked to the wife.

Its really a mess. It basically comes down to the fact that my wife doesn't have any interest in saving this. She wants me out as soon as possible. She wants to move her best friend and thats it. It [censored] coming to the place that i know i cant do anything and i just have to let it run its coarse.

[robb]

I hate that for you Hoping. I guess you just have to move on for now.

I am sensing the same thing in my situation. It makes it hard for me to detach with us still being together and having some good times, seems like old times really, but just can't talk to her about the relationship.

[Hopingtomakeit]

Ya, i dont know what to do. She started hating me and that's super rough. She hates me because i want to save the marriage it pisses her off that i would try and save something she doenst want saved. She feels i tried her last time and it wont happen again.

My friend pointed out something to me that has been making me think. She maybe didnt do it last time because it was hard but this time is super easy with her best friend lined up to live with her.

[Hopingtomakeit]

A friggen mess but im trying to move on with my life. I jumped on a dating site and im talking to people....I feel like im cheating however on the flip side it feels good to be liked....

I dont know what the hell im doing

[Hopingtomakeit]

The W and I talked a bit last night. I made her understand i am not trying to make this horrible and i am trying my best. I said the few things i needed to say and then i walked away. I could tell she liked me near her but i figure it was best to walk away and give her some more time....I still don't think this can be saved and I'm working on moving on.