I wouldn't do it. The only thing it will do is give you expectations and if he doesn't live up to those expectations then you'll just end up feeling worse.

For instance, if you send it and he doesn't respond, you'll be disappointed. If you send it and he responds but stays short with you, you'll be disappointed. If you send it and he has a full on conversation with you, you'll start to get your hopes up and then soon after will feel disappointed once you stop hearing from him again.

I read the most inspiring thread last night, it really puts in to perspective what this DB'ing is all about. Here's the thread...

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1695484&page=1

Me: 32 H: 32
M 9 yrs
#1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2
Bomb 8/12/11
H moved out 8/14/11
PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12
Got my own place 8/25/12
H & OW move in together 9/15/12
Still married.