Hoping my marriage can be saved :(

[Maggie3]

That's a good idea. Even though I'm not sure if I want to move or not at least knowing would help the decision and also a realtor might be able to recommend the renovations that will give us the most payout.

Sometimes I just think divorcing and moving all at once will be too much for me and it would be better to space them out. I also love this house and really pictured our kids playing here. Part of me wants to keep this house for when I do have kids. Then I swing back the other way and think I should just move and make life easier.

Just to clarify- I don't ask H to come do yard work. He usually emails me once a week and says what day he is coming by. I almost emailed him last week about stepping it up and doing more but I chose not to and he now seems to be taking that initiative on his own. He was here yesterday cutting the lawn and is coming Monday to do some other stuff- so that's good. I also am usually not home when he comes. I've seen him twice since the end of March- each time I've only stayed home for about 15 minutes or so and he's been outside most of that time. I've been out there for 2 hours this morning doing stuff (and working on my tan) and my dad is coming tomorrow to help with my big project.