Is it too late?

[LostIn407]

The W of the couple we are closest to called my W the other day because she was concerned. We all worked together and hung out in the same circles. Our children are the same age.

She was going to fly across the country to spend time with my WAW to kickstart her family emotions. After talking to my WAW, she told me that she is lost. My W has tasted freedom and likes it too much. She enjoys being a part-time Mom and going out all of the time.

She told me the OM and my WAW will never evolve into anything. They don't have any meaningful conversations and basically just do fun things without any children around.

That is what hurts the most. I like to do things. I like to go out, but my WAW doesn't see me like that anymore. I also understand her MLC and have no problems if she wants to be a part-time Mom for a bit. I am not going to lie, I also enjoy my nights without the kids a bit. The problem I have is the OM. Why does she need the OM? We could go out together 3 - 4 times a week now that I found the job I was searching for with nights and weekends off.

The friend told me that my WAW believes that I will always be there for her. I will be there to watch the children at any time, which is true. I love my daughters and I love my wife.

I have gone dark and am at the LRT stage. I gave her an ultimatum date of August 2012.

If I end up filing for D, I am moving back West. I moved to FL because her family is here. There is nothing here for me. All of my support and better job opportunities are out West for me.

The friend asked my WAW/MLC what she is going to do when I move back. At this point, my friend said panic arose in my WAW/MLC voice. She said I would never do that.

While it would kill me not being around my Ds everyday, I feel that I need to get my life back in order and being alone in FL isn't helping.

Before the August 2012, I will tell my WAW/MLC that I intend to file and after it is done, if not sooner, I will be moving back West.

There are three scenarios for this:
A) She gives me Sole Parental Responsibility and allows me to move the Ds back West.
B) She takes Sole Parental Responsibility and we setup visitation where I come to FL every other week or every 3rd week to see my Ds.
C) She finally drops the OM and we being work on our M and move back West.

What my wife wants is to be a Part-Time Mom as she is MLC and enjoys the freedom. Scenarios A & B will not allow this.

In a way, it feels like a threat, but it isn't. I am not happy in FL and need to be around my support. I am an IT consultant. I don't know if I will do a full move or pickup a 90 day assignment, but I do need time with my support.

Do I wait until August 2012 comes closer or do I tell her my intentions now? I am planning a trip out West in a few weeks so I can interview for some positions and she will have to watch the Ds an extra day. Do I tell her why I am going then?

My support is out there. I will have a place to stay rent free. I will be better off financially and emotionally.