I decided not to call H last night, and to wait until this morning to email him with my thoughts re: the boat. I wasn't sure what to say, how to put it. It wasn't permission I was granting, and I don't necessarily agree 100%.

The answer came to me when I read Brookie's new thread, which brought me to tears.

This is what I wrote:

"Hi H. I slept on our conversation and all I can really say is life is short. Please do enjoy the boat. It's your pride and joy - I know how you love it and what pride and peace it brings you. I trust you with this."

As Blue Rodeo says, "love and understanding are the best answers I've heard yet."

I thought hard yesterday about the boat thing. My angst wasn't about the boat at all. It was about letting go, or hanging on rather. And control. I know this, and have let them go.

me 45
H 46
T 5
M 2.5
BD Sept 6 2011
OW Sept 8 2011
Threw him out Sept 8 2011