Hoping my marriage can be saved :(

[Maggie3]

I don't know that I am trying to punish him, but it just seems unfair that he can walk away from all responsibilities and that I have to pick up the slack for him.

I think the house came to represent a mistake on H's part. He would often make comments about how our realtor did a bad job, we overpaid, etc. About a year after we bought our house the local flood plains were redrawn and we are now in a flood plain which means we have to pay flood insurance (and at the highest rate). This is again something that really bothered him (it bothered me too but I loved our house and the little river it's on so I was still happy with our decision). This fact will also make it difficult to sell our house, hence my concerns that we will lose a lot of money if we do sell our house.