Still Afloat and moving Forward

[BeingMe]

Yeah, we also got together and tried to make it work, but I was doing all the changing, while he just continued being the same passive-aggressive jerk. Then, one day, I decide ... enough ... told him he can sleep in the spare room, and to cut out the robotic "love you" on the phone, or the quick kiss/hug at the airport. And, I demanded he give me my own money twice a month (ostensibly to buy groceries, but I save some of it in a savings account). I have been slowly growing my boundaries, and getting used to him not being there for me, or with me. At this point, I can't imagine him back in my bed.

A male friend of his and mine told me tonight that my H is a good man. Yes, he is, but he's not a good H, I thought to myself. All my friends here think that it's up to me to save the M, but it really isn't. It's up to him, but it's pretty much too late.