Don't tell him you're backing off if you're backing off. Just do it. And if he needs anything he'll let you know without you telling him to in advance. Sorry you are going through this; hang in there.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.