Both of you need to do the right thing, not the thing that will keep your spouse from getting mad. If they ever have a chance of coming back to you, they will respect that you did what was right for your child. Realize that chance is slim. Usually people get to this point (bomb, counseling, talk of divorce) when it is already a done deal in the WAS's mind; it is usually too late to save the marriage no matter what you do. Not trying to make you feel bad, just trying to show you why you must try now to get what is best for your kid first of all, and what is best for you second.
You can db while doing this. You do that by detaching, getting a life, acting as if you're moving on while keeping the road home paved and smooth. It's not easy. If you can rely on your lawyer to handle the lawyer stuff that will help.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
