this rocky path WILL smooth out

[zig]

could really use some advice here, please

h is making it very clear that even hinting at the 3 of us doing anything together is waaaay too much for him to even think about, let alone do. which is fine - i understand that he feels that as pressure and it doesn't bother me - i see it for what it is and where he's at.

there's a great parade downtown tomorrow - and he specifically told me on the phone today "I really want to take s to the parade"

i said great that was wonderful. (s is at my house this weekend)

so here's my quandary: I really want to go that parade.

Do I

1. casually say to H , i'm planning to go too, can we hang out together or shall I go with friends (they would be s's classmate and his family)

2. just go on my own

3. forego going - so as not to make s uncomfortable. this is not such a large town, and the chances that they don't see me there are pretty much nil

4. just go on my own with my friends, and let them make of it what they will..



I am really focusing on keeping all and any pressure off h. but with these kinds of situations - i'm not really sure what to do.

I'm really not concerned much about h seeing me there separately - i'm concerned about s seeing me there separately.

also, i haven't been to these parades with them in the past five years, because it was too difficult with my movement disorder to be in a crowd, but now, when i'm great, i want to go out and do all the fun stuff - and this is a fun parade - it's the Art Car parade that i used to take s to before the accidents (h would never come with us), and always loved seeing all the crazy cars all dressed up and wild.

hope someone can give me some DB'ing perspective on this

thanks
zig