My heart goes out to you...such a difficult thing to hear from your H right now. I think you've gotten some good advice in this thread so far. Just because he is wanting to discuss dividing up items/resources doesn't mean you have to react in a catastrophic way. Let him talk; you just listen. He sounds like he needs to approach things in a pragmatic way--match his tone, but don't be afraid to let him know you need time to work through this at your own pace. He may be of the mindset that D is inevitable right now. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. One thing I'm learning though my current experience is that I have to be comfortable with a certain amount of ambivalence. My H is pretty adamant that D is the only way to go right now...I'm not committing to anything.
Have the two of you tried counseling at all?
M-40 H-39 M- 12 years T- 20 years Separation: 5-8-12; H says he wants to pursue divorce
