hey 1702, you posted on my thread ages ago and said you'd like to talk to me...just jumping in to sort of "defend" Bond. A few nights ago I was practically having a breakdown...my phone could have easily drowned in my tears. My point is during the hurt and pain I was in I read Bond's comments as attacking me. He's honestly not. I reread them the next day and wasn't the least bit hurt.
Everything he's saying is true. I typed up a massive thing on Crazyville's thread about being a WAW and how I felt when I going thru my decision to leave. it's on page 11 of her thread something about a one way street.
Right now you are doing a lot of mind reading, you're trying to make sense of why she feels the way she feels and what made her change her mind, especially after two weddings at her insistence etc....please stop doing that. For your own sanity. You will never figure it out because I doubt she even knows or could explain it. and it hurts her to think about it too! it will drive you crazy. This why they say "believe none of what they say and half of what they say" Did you read my thread where my H told me he's moving in with GF but I'm prettier and more fun? Yeah, it's all conflicting because they're confused!
Here's what you can do read as many books recommended here you can find: How to Improve Your Relationship without talking about it, the Five Languages of Love, Divorce Remedy, Codependent No More, The Mastery of Love. Detach and give her space. For you own sanity and emotional stability and happiness don't pursue, don't chase, try to accept what is happening right now, and work on improving yourself so that you can be a better you no matter the outcome.
