Thanks so much. I've been following your thread and have always thought about how brave you are. You're right. Bravery is needed in this situation. Have read DR, the 37 Rules and have been GAL-ing like crazy. I feel much happier and at peace with myself then during the 2.5 months when H kept saying he was going to leave.
We've been together for 20 years and starting in Oct. he started working late and not coming home until 9 or 10. On weekends he would leave in the mornings and not come home until midnight. Didn't believe in the OW until I had physical proof in my hands.
I know my failings in this marriage. I failed to be as nurturing as I could have, and wanted to be, because my H is a very detached person and I thought this was what he wanted. I made a lot of assumptions of how he wanted to be treated but realize now that he felt we didn't "tend" to our marriage.
