Time for LBH to move home? WAW can do the walking.

[AlwaysTrying]

So, I think I need to address "I don't think I'll ever forgive you. I don't have to.", and in a more general way address the idea that she waits around in a sort of half-hope that her feelings will change without engaging me in some way.

And I guess that is sort-of against LRT. The other thing I want most is for her to push back or put the divorce on hold. I accept now that even if we decide to try to work things out again, maybe she needs to move out and find her own place, even if that means kids now have two bedrooms and all the other bad stuff about divorce that I wanted to avoid.

I told her earlier this week that I want another chance for our marriage/separation to work out. We tried it my way and it didn't work out, so let's try her way. I said you can't blame me for trying to take an approach that would be a lot less disruptive for everyone.

I want to ask her if she'll come to counseling next Friday to talk about her feelings about what she told me Monday in counseling. We have divorce court the same day, so I don't know how realistic that is.


I feel like I'm in a strange place because I'm pretty sure it's more important than ever for me to LRT, but I feel like some communication is happening and I need to let it happen.

Trying to remember:
1.Do not pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead or implore!
and
12.Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude.

I feel comfortable now that my world won't end if I have to go to court Friday without my lawyer and I can't pay the mortgage and my wife moves out and takes half the furniture and my favorite cooking knives.

Right now, she is coming to me, she is opening up a little, even if it is just to express anger, but then she is actually being pretty nice to me in general. I think I'm in a good place emotionally to really hang back for a while and not let her actions affect my mood.

I think what I can say to her at some point this weekend is something like "Whether or not we are going to get divorced, I would like to improve our relationship." and encourage her to join me at a future counseling session.