i'm good. i'm fine. more than fine.

[BFloat]

The fact that you mentioned calling another guy and then you started feeling better.

I totally understand the feeling of worthlessness that we feel when our spouse's leave us. The reason for GALing is so that the LBS feels confident and strong in themselves without having to rely on someone else to make them feel good. If you don't do that, you will find yourself in the same situation with someone else.

If you can honestly say that you're fine without someone in your life and have increased your self worth, then you're ready for going out with others. Just MHO.

lol. i was just thinking about this more!

i didn't feel better after calling another guy. it was simply that i took that step. a few months ago i would have felt guilty. but what is there to feel guilty about?

you are right. in the beginning i was a total mess. what was wrong with me? why wasn't i good enough? and it was awful. my self-worth went completely down the toilet.

i have battled a lot during this time with the question of why i felt i wasn't good enough? why i needed to feel i had to sacrifice myself all the time? who was asking me to be a martyr? no one. only myself.

i can honestly say that i am fine without someone in my life right now. my increased self worth? yes. i can take care of myself. i am perfectly capable of doing what i need to do for myself and my 2 monkeys. whether i'm ready to go out with others remains to be seen. lol. one step at a time!