Stuck in Holding Pattern 2

[ben11]

Ben your story is amazing. i really wish i had you strength man.

You probably do, sometimes it just takes a while to find. I always knew deep down that I'd be 'ok' no matter what happened, but once I bought into that idea, things just got progressively easier.

I will add to this with some advice that will ultimately help you feel better about yourself. I have not been able to get here in words, but in my head I am moving towards finding forgiveness for my wife. I am in a similar situation and I think the key for my long term happiness, at least part of it, is to let go of the resentment I feel towards my wife and ask her to forgive me for my contributions to the demise of my marriage. In doing so, I know that I will be at peace with myself and, if delivered with the utmost sincerity, will help your wife find some peace as well. Check out the 5 Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman - extremely helpful to me. If you can elevate to a higher ground, man, the world is your oyster...

I'll check out this book, thanks. Unless I'm fooling myself and I'm currently not aware, I don't really hold resentment towards W. I hope that doesn't change. I've never badmouthed her to my friends/family, and I really don't intend to. I've learned from this and many other situations that holding guilt/resentment/anger towards someone is just a burden not worth carrying.

Feels good to take the yoke off and stretch the legs, doesn't it? It's a heavy friggin load to carry a whole R by yourself.

You still thinking of that summer jaunt abroad?

I like southern BC. I've been up to BC a couple times for Whistler and Vancouver. What great places. Drove through Surrey etc. on the way up there. Or are you further inland? I also went skiing in some place near the border further inland that I can't remember the name of. I think it had 2 words in the name.

I'm doing that big bike race/ride early September, so I hope to go after that. Europe after that. I graduated from university just recently (9 year bachelor degree FTW) and my parents are gifting me a bit of cash as a congrats, so I plan to do this trip right.

Maybe I'll just stay out in Holland and meet a beautiful dutch girl and never return...

I live right beside the Surrey border in Langley, so a fairly quick drive to most of the things to do in the Lower Mainland here. As for the mountain, there's a ton of mountains with two word names, some of which are Sun Peaks, Big White, Silver Star, etc. I'm not a big boarder anymore since my board got jacked many moons ago.

Went golfing last night, going today, cycling tomorrow and a round of golf after that. The sun is shining and I'm just counting down the minutes till the weekend is here!