I totally 100% agree that there are moments that we look back and see changes. I want to look and say I'm so happy I stopped doing x or I'm so much happier now that I'm doing this.
I put that about each day because the idea of change can seem big and hard. But just each day saying I'm glad I did this. I'm proud that I stayed detached. I enjoyed myself today at the river, spending time with S, Taking joy in passing a group of elderly people having a picnic.
Before I would have been at home being resentful wondering what H and his GF were doing this weekend and being upset that I didn't have plans or someone to share the weekend with. Not now. I'll make my own plans and enjoy myself.