I don't buy the no emotional connection thing either, mainly because it makes no sense, I think it's what they need to tell themselves to make it ok in their heads to runaway. My counselor thinks my H has depression and feels like a failure I agree with him. During BD he told me he didn't know if he even enjoyed his favorite activities anymore, but it seems that he does, that's really all he's been doing is shooting.... that and going to the gym and watching a LOT of tv. There are the occasional times I have no idea where he is or what he might be doing, but luckily they are rare, unless of course he's skipping out of work. Having been depressed myself, I see how one doesn't really realize that is what is going on while in the middle of it, but if he would just entertain the idea of getting help, it's amazing how much better one can feel.
My counselor says H is running away as well. H tells everyone that he is fine. He doesn't need help. But whenever he is around us at home if he isn't busy talking to OW or mowing the yard he is playing "Cityville" or some other game on the company iPad. Escaping. That's what he does best anymore.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
