i dont think anyone has told dueinMay not to feel her anger, but we have said not to express it by beating her H.

adding to the great things gabbysmom said, a big part of being happy is choosing your perspective. dueinMay is making the choice to view things negatively, and she's miserable. she's setting conditions on her happiness and even when the condition is met, she finds fault.

its her choice on how she sees her life, and his actions. and her choices are being driven by her anger, and disappointment, and fears.

and its not about him anymore.

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".