Sandi, My father was so relieved that we, as a family, accepted what was going to happen. I can tell the entire story at a later point, but he wanted to make sure he was there to share that special day with us because he knew he wouldn't be there for the wedding in June.
When my W and I met, we both had had our share of bad R's that didn't work. It had been almost 2 yrs that I wasn't in a R. I dated a few times, but there really wasn't a connection. W basically the same thing. When we met through a mutual friend, we spent a considerable amount of time talking before our first date. We were both in our 30s and knew what we wanted out of a R. Those first few weeks, we didn't hold anything back about expectations. In her words, we weren't going to waste each other's time with the "courting" period because of our age and life experiences.
When she suggested we marry in the hospital, that was the greatest gift anybody could have ever given me. We wanted to give my dad the gift of sharing our vows with each other and we also wanted to make sure our entire families were able to see us marry. He was very adamant that we still went through with the planned wedding.
There was never any promise to carry on the family name or have grandchildren. It was important to me to have kids and give my parents grandchildren, but in no way was that a driving factor. My parents had already considered SD as their grandchild.
There was no trust fund or anything like that. My W and D were gifts sent from God that they came into my life when they did.
Things between us were basically bliss until we were married. It was almost as if being married and the responsibilities of it "smacked her in the face". Instead of just making decisions for her and D, now her H was in the picture.
I hope I was able to answer what you wanted and I look forward to hearing from you later.
