In-Home Separation, One Year Point

[ces67]

Hey Ad, just checking in. Hope you enjoyed the rest of your business trip.

As I read your posts, it seems we have a good bit in common. Quite, reserved, enjoy people but keep a distance to some degree....

"I'm afraid to open my heart to other people too much, to put myself in tempting situations, and to really let go and live, because I still feel committed to my M until my H declares that we are done."

I get this. On a recent business trip there was a big event with a late-night party. The party had a dj, a big dance floor and an open bar. I'd met new co-workers who were fun & friendly. I even had a drink which is rare for me. But I just couldn't bring myself to get on a dance floor and dance with another woman.

I don't feel bad at all about my choice. It aligns with my priorities & values. But that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy meeting new people and laughing. Glad you were able to enjoy some of these same things as well while being true to your own integrity.

"Do I expect to have the marriage of my dreams with my H? I don't have that expectation any more"

Not sure how to take this or how you meant it. I see 2 possibilities. 1) You're content to settle for something that is less than fulfilling or 2)You are accepting the fact that there is no perfection in any of us or any marriage but joy & blessings can be found in all circumstances if we focus on the positives and how to be loving.

What do you think, because that's what's important! ((Ad))