This book I'm reading is blowing my mind. You should really read it. I love this part on control where they say that if you hold too tightly to a situation not only could you be forcing the person to resist or redouble their efforts but you're stopping a higher power from being able to work or letting things take their natural course.
I also like the part where it says that someone else's actions isn't a reflection of you. if they do something horrible or embarrassing isn't say anything about you. Him moving on like this made me feel like our M wasn't a big deal. He's ready to shack up with the first girl he meets even though he's told me some not so warm things about her.....what does this say about him and my judgement that I was with him for so long? NOTHING. he's not who he was when I met him and neither am I.
