I may not have time to finish posting this morning, but there is something I'd like to ask you. Why was it your father's dying wish to see you M? If he died the night the two of you were M in front of him....he must have had a very strong reason for wanting to see that happen. Was it your duty or promise, in some way, to carry on the family name? Were you trying to assure him there would be grandchildren? Hope I'm not offensive, but was there a trust fund involved?

"She liked that I was basically a man's man. Fixing things, hard worker, but I still had the side to take care of my family. That I took care of my parents. That I just wanted to be with her and D. That family was very important to me."

She was a single mom looking for a man's man who would provide a stable home for her and her D. You seemed to be everything she needed. You, on the otherhand, were looking for a woman who would fit the design you drawn up in your mind. You wanted a W who would have your children, and who would be happy being a W and mother and making a home for you. So, both of you were looking for each other (in a way of speaking). You both sort of checked each other out to see what was what, and then proceded to get M.


I'll have to finish my post later. Hope you have time to answer my questions.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!