[/b]wishing, hoping: [b]Ok wow...now my XH said the same thing upon BD and departure. " nothing makes me happy anymore. Gaming doesn't even make my happy anymore. The only thing I do like is being with the kids. I have to go find my happy". Then of course I was blamed for all his unhappiness in scathing emails after he left. History was revised and issues that happened 15 years ago were as if they had happened yesterday with him. Totally bizarre. Now within 2 weeks of getting his own apartment he then acted as if he was higher than a kite....it was like a manic phase. He obsessively text everyone, including me. Lost alot of weigh and started drinking and taking sleeping pills. He started having nightmares, even text me after a bad dream once. He appeared very miserable for almost 2 months, up until OW stepped into the picture. Then stepped in the infatuated high and trying to be profusely nice to me. I've read that depression in males can manifest as anger, resentment, feeling entitled, and acting arrogant for starters.
[/b] Kaffe:[b] No.... I don't remember getting that memorandum. Just how are we supposed to feel about our spouses anyway? Im getting the idea that in their minds that if things have become routine, and the spark has died down, that it's more trouble to make an effort to re-ignite it. Hmmmmm....interesting logic. Lost the spark, feeling dull, so lets move out, disrupt our childrens lives, devastate our spouses, spend huge amounts of money on moving and having fun...oh and lets hire an attorney! Lets battle it out with our spouses, and re-ignite all the anger and resentment instead! Sparks are definately flying now, but they sure aren't out of love and passion.
OR....be honest, get some books, find a good marriage counselor, and take some time to be together.
My aunt feels that the happy my XH seemed to have after leaving is a sense of empowerment. Maybe this is what goes on with the WAS's when they turn around and start being nice and doing all these things after they leave or start in with OP in the same house. A sense of empowerment.
