Hi Nhmom H's complaints are that he wants to be single, he doesn't like having someone else to think about and wants to do his own thing. He feels that being married clips his wings, although I don;t stand in his way and encourage him to pursue his career. What it stems back to is that he seems to want to go out and have the freedom to do what he wants... with whoever he wants.
He has mentioned S and D and has wanted to move out however he hasn't actually packed his bags and made the move. At the moment, we're seeing how things pan out between now and him going on tour. If his feelings don't change then we'll separate when he goes away. I find this hard as we're not going to see much of each other between now and August but I'm resisting the urge to discuss it further.
I keep very busy, I work and see the other military wives often. I'm very used to my H being away so I have a head start on GAL but I will take steps to do more things like travel to see friends who are further afield. I also need to work on not contacting him. When he's away, it's usually me who texts or phones but I won;t be doing that from now on. I will try my best to distance myself and make him wonder what I'm up to.
We have counselling this afternoon and H has already mentioned that he doesn't see the point in going as it will put him in a bad mood. I didn't push it and said it'd be good if we both went but it's up to him, I'm really hoping we'll both go.
I'll keep updating on here and really appreciate the comments and support. Thanks
H's complaints are that he wants to be single, he doesn't like having someone else to think about and wants to do his own thing. He feels that being married clips his wings, although I don;t stand in his way and encourage him to pursue his career. What it stems back to is that he seems to want to go out and have the freedom to do what he wants... with whoever he wants.