Hi Nhmom H's complaints are that he wants to be single, he doesn't like having someone else to think about and wants to do his own thing. He feels that being married clips his wings, although I don;t stand in his way and encourage him to pursue his career. What it stems back to is that he seems to want to go out and have the freedom to do what he wants... with whoever he wants.
He has mentioned S and D and has wanted to move out however he hasn't actually packed his bags and made the move. At the moment, we're seeing how things pan out between now and him going on tour. If his feelings don't change then we'll separate when he goes away. I find this hard as we're not going to see much of each other between now and August but I'm resisting the urge to discuss it further.
I keep very busy, I work and see the other military wives often. I'm very used to my H being away so I have a head start on GAL but I will take steps to do more things like travel to see friends who are further afield. I also need to work on not contacting him. When he's away, it's usually me who texts or phones but I won;t be doing that from now on. I will try my best to distance myself and make him wonder what I'm up to.
We have counselling this afternoon and H has already mentioned that he doesn't see the point in going as it will put him in a bad mood. I didn't push it and said it'd be good if we both went but it's up to him, I'm really hoping we'll both go.
I'll keep updating on here and really appreciate the comments and support. Thanks
My husband is away for the next 9 weeks (with work) but comes home at weekends. I have decided not to call or text him and it seems to be working. He has been in touch regularly! Last weekend was good, we went to the cinema, out on a boat trip and coasteering (where you jump off cliffs and swim in caves) We also went on a night out together...just the 2 of us (something which we rarely usually do) I have to admit that he seems to be making an effort but I'm worried that I'll jinx things by writing that! We head up to see both sets of parents this weekend. It will be the first time that he will have seen them since the cheating. They all know what happened so I'm impressed that he's suggested visiting them. Will keep updating my posts on here. Writing things down really is helping.
H's complaints are that he wants to be single, he doesn't like having someone else to think about and wants to do his own thing. He feels that being married clips his wings, although I don;t stand in his way and encourage him to pursue his career. What it stems back to is that he seems to want to go out and have the freedom to do what he wants... with whoever he wants.