This might be last chance??

[MrBond]

That you were a rebound relationship from the one that she had just gotten out of.

"What we had was more of a R that she has had before."

First thing you have to do is to stop using the thinking of "we". This is your perception. And even though she might have said something before, she might have said it to just agree with you.

Let's face it, if things were as wonderful as you explain they were, you wouldn't be here.

"Even though it is obvious that vows weren't as important to her than me,"

Again you're mindreading. It could be that something happened that altered her perception. You need to take your emotions out of this for a little while and see things objectively. As if your W were someone whom you just met and want to date.

What are her strengths and weaknesses? What were the things that she found attractive in you and in other men?