Hey Peringo. Thanks for posting. I think that doing the steps and seeking therapy are good avenues for you to explore. If you are not already doing that. I don't have kids so I can't immagine what that is like, but I feel for you. It sounds like your wife is really angry at something and she is focusing that on you. Whether or not it is deserved, it is unfair for her to treat you that way. I think you are doing the right thing by not being provoked by her actions. Try and remember your self worth. That has been the hardest part for me. You are not a doormat. You are a strong man capable of taking care of yourself. You will soon find that you are capable of finding someone who is caring enough not to do this type of thing to you. Best of luck in your situation.