My story started March

[I-Care]

Thanks mrbond-

Maybe I didn't push to far. She agreed to do me a favor today. It is a bit out of her way, and two months ago she would have said. NO.

As far as complimenting her I certainly will try. She is guarded with certain things right now. All I can do is talk on phone see her every once in awhile. And yes I certainly got that impression awhile back as well. I did say positive things that where definitely heard and felt. She really wants us all in counseling. I will just have to keep my enthusiasm to a minimum. Meaning this is absolutely no ending in one day

[MrBond]

"As far as complimenting her I certainly will try."

Men don't try. They do.

"All I can do is talk on phone see her every once in awhile."

Make every interaction count.

[MrBond]

Actually I should revise that.

DIVORCE BUSTERS DON'T "TRY". THEY "DO".

[MrBond]

So how are things going?

[I-Care]

Nothing to really report. We all do family counseling Friday.
Like I have said before I am on her timeline. All I can do is keep on with waiting. I have not wavered on my hopes of reconciliation. Just cannot dwell good luck everyone.

[MrBond]

"Like I have said before I am on her timeline."

Which is why you're in a holding pattern. It doesn't work that way.

Good luck to you though.

[I-Care]

Well what am I suppose to do then? Basically the 180's are what they are. Isnt that a holding pattern. When I say her timeline. I mean its up to her to want to be together. I can do all the changes and want family. I guess there can be many versions of holding patter.

[MrBond]

Have you read the recent posts of the people who have reconciled? You make things according to your timeline to attract her back. You're leaving everything up to her which implies that you're helpless which you're not.

But unless you actually document some of your interactions here, no one can help you.

[I-Care]

I will be in there with the folks that have been successful, its just going to take awhile. Me dwelling daily on forums or in day to day life isn't going to change the facts.
I am sure you (mrbond) will pick this apart as well. I appreciate criticism but really isn't the format for that. You have called into question my manhood twice. You apologized once. Good for you. I have my own problems I do not need a guy on a forum giving me grief. I will be getting my wife back but it will take awhile. Coasting or on her timeline whatever you want to rip go ahead.
Patience is a holding pattern. I have given all I am willing to give to a web site. If that makes me ? OK.
Like I have said I have several posts on a word document to get me by.
Like I said I am not really a www guy and forums. I do better in person.
Thanks for the help folks and good luck. I am not giving up on my spouse or my family just need to spend more time in real world dealing with out stressing on negative.
Patience.

[MrBond]

For one thing, I'm not sure where you see that I called into question your manhood. I was just making general comments to inspire you and they weren't mean to insult.

I mentioned earlier that it seems like you had a problem communicating with your W. I can kind of see that. I think you should actually read the posts carefully before responding back to people.

I've never given you "grief" or ripped you. It seems like what you take offense to is that you seem to just want to hear the parts you want to hear. Which is fine, but you've your W is in the same boat.

What you don't seem to get is that YOU are stressing on the negative. What you should be doing is celebrating the positives. When you post interactions that happened, the posters on here may point out things that you don't see. You may not like what we say, but that's your choice. It's all a learning experience.

The posts aren't made for you to "get by". They're there to help you thrive an improve. But if that's not for you, then that is still your choice. See how that works? Good luck to you.