Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

[timbits]

No problem. I don't always post in other threads because I don't feel I have much advice to offer, but your thread seems very similar to mine. My H had an EA/PA (didn't go very far, didn't sleep with her, but made out, kissed, etc), I told him it had to stop now, it did, but I feel like he resents me, too. I send OW an email telling her never to call my parents' home ever again (we were housesitting at the time), that she is destroying my marriage and that she had to leave him alone. He feels very differently about her now and can't stand to hear about her, but I feel like I destroyed his fantasy relationship with her.

I can totally relate to your sitch.