MrBond I appreciate your reply it has given me much to think about. I do belive I have been living in W shadow for quite sometime. I have decided I won’t do this anymore that I do need to GAL and she can come along if she wants, that will be her choice.
As for the space issue I know she’s angry that our M has come to this point. With our history and amount of years together there have been discussions (fights) about some of our issues before and W said that things got better for awhile but then back to the same ole’ thing. I always tried to change for her not me. W is angry because why now can I work on myself and sustain change, in the past I never took it to seriously, these fights always came at times where there was stress and/or hormones involved or so I thought.
W wants to be in control of everything this she pretty much told me. With all that’s going on w/her mom and BFF I think this is only part of her life she feels she can have control over. She told me to leave but when I agreed that separation was probably best she asked me to stay. Asked for space but then doesn’t know how or when she wants it. Example last night she told me after dinner that she was bringing kids to video game store to get D something she wanted, I said ok. As they were leaving W ask aren’t you coming with us? I said no I’m gonna run to store and then take motorcycle for ride to clear my head and do some thinking, she seemed surprised by that and when I got home later seemed rather quite so I did not try to strike up conversation as most nights, whereas one of W complaints was that I’m quite and withdrawn. She also took day off from work today which is not normal I asked if she had plans for the day and just got maybe I’ll clean my closet or cut some trees down (something she has talked and planned to do). I am not reading anything into this but I know that she doesn’t miss work often. I am quick learner and fairly smart but Detaching from someone who you still live with and love is still giving me some trouble, how can you do this and not seem like you just don’t care? I also come to terms that I will be ok no matter how this R turns out, my kids love me and I love me, want my W to love me but that’s her decision not mine.
