Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

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Kat: always wonderful words of wisdom you give me, I really do want to thank you for being there and helping me look at it with different eyes. Maybe he is mourning it in his own way (avoidance tends to be his m.o. and he will hyperfocus on the next project). Ill keep on keeping on. Its the first time I've ever been excited about my own life in a very long time. (Sad I know... too codependent and I'm working on that!)

Hb in SD: in my other thread I found out about ow exactly 1 month ago, always had suspicions that she was the reason h would be distant at times. I had her phone # and when I found his truck at her apt instead of @ his friends house, all of my suspicions were validated. I blew up both of there phones all night until she called back. For 8 minutes I asked her what kind of woman she wanted to be one who sleeps w married men, what kind of real relationship would she have w a cheater, could she ever trust him if he was out, and that if she pursued r with my h, I would never go away. We have a s and did she Really want to deal with me the rest of her life. I also called her out on her mo of being involved w other married men because she was too afraid of a. Real relationship. Also wasnt it odd that they slept together one time but he didn't pursue it mor but was using her to sleep on the couch (allegedly).

Please don't do this. When they say don't confront here... listen.
Yes she cut it off, but that's because she is a coward and couldn't come head to head w me, and I would not back down. Some op may not do that. And the big one: your spouse will be incredibly resentful. You killed their fantasy instead of it dying when your spouse realized the op's faults.
I feel like even though it was he who cheated, it set me back in h's trust of me.
And it is leading me to here, where h is cuttoff from everthing except his passion of the moment.

So here I am, not sure how to connect w h without pursuing. but I'm trying to focus on my goals now, and maybe not contacting him is still best.