"She is not a touchy person. I am the touchy one in the family."
It's not the physical act she wanted. It was the thought behind the act that she wants. She wants to know that you are there for her.
"She is worried we are not going to be happy, the kids are leaving, and maybe life is passing her by."
Mind reading. Only she knows this.
"And another thing. It is absolutly not my fault if she wanted me to make decisions, She valued my insight very much."
That's what you think I'm sure she wanted her voice to be heard too sometimes but maybe felt overruled by you.
"She doesn't understand. I would agree with her but she would get confused or did not understand then argue."
Maybe the way you communicate to her is what's confusing. Just because you know what you're talking about doesn't mean she does. Maybe sometimes what you thought was agreement was just her giving up. Just the fact that you used the example of the father talking to a child shows unconsciously what you think of her.
"It was mayberry till it wasnt."
That's what you think. She doesn't. You don't understand that the WAS thinks about this for a long time and it's not an overnight thing. It takes years of hurt on the part of the LBS for it to get to that point.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
