Finally talked to the L last night and she agrees that something needs to be done now. She is going to file a petition but with the holiday weekend feels like we won't know more until Tuesday. She is filing for the temporary financial agreement.
As for the custody/visitation, she suggested that I stop leaving every other weekend and let him figure out where he will see the kids. It is too confusing for the kids, and apparently for STBX. He still has yet to take anything but his clothes and keeps telling people that this is not happening and he will be moving home. I am guessing this is based on past when he could confuse me or control me into his way of thinking, with no apologies or remorse.
I heard from the new IC this morning and she scheduled me for the 4th, due to the holiday week too. If she has a cancellation she will call me. I am good with that. I am lucky to have a very strong support system in the meantime.
Last night was S18 bday celebration at the Sixers playoff game. It was fun and glad we did it, but STBX was clearly using it as a way to manipulate me further. We were sitting apart with the kids between us and he maneuvered his way next to me. When I got up to go downstairs, he insisted on going with me rather than staying with the boy. I thought it was a one time thing but he did it again later in the evening.
When he was leaving he finally got to have that cigar with S18 and it was getting late so I was trying to round the boys up. STBX started looking at the floor and getting mopey, said he is not doing very well. I replied "it takes time, you will be ok" I didn't want to get into that conversation and tried to keep it light and shut the door. He responded "thats what they say but I don't know"
I simply said "drive carefully, see you soon"
I am guessing once he hears from his L all of that will change. I am just tired of the manipulation and sad that I let it happen for all of those years, now that I see it I am amazed.
