Hey, Voldy is going away for three days...hooray! Last night she was on the phone fighting with D15 and I was in my room. I could hear my daughter crying "no Mommy, please don't" So I came out and it took all my strength not to intercede. Voldy was pissed about something, probably that the child had spoken to her disrespectfully and was threatening to phone the school and have D15 taken off the school track team. Typical Voldy bullying. when you're mad, instead of walking away and returning to the subject when you're cooler, you pull out all the big guns. Wow, how many years have I seen this! Finally, daughter and mother calmed down and it ended peacefully. Part of me wanted to jump in and protect daughter but I have to realize that daughter is old enough now to deal with her mother on her own. If Voldy had of said she was going to pull daughter I would have been on the phone immediately. We co-parent, she doesn't just make those kinds of decisions unilaterally...uh uh! Daughter is so proud of her track & field status, just got her hoody yesterday with her name and school name etc. and, of course, Voldy has to spoil it. So, I let them work it out, hard as that was. When we were together I used to jump in and take the blows for the kids when she was overboard. I try to stand back now and recognize that the girls and their mother have to work out their own relationship. Bye bye Voldy...won't miss you for three days! I talked to SDA Lady last night about it and she was very understanding and supportive. It was nice to have someone to share with how I was feeling. It's so hard to stand back and see my baby hurting but, at least, all turned out well. They agreed to commumnicate better in the future...whatever that means.
