Thank you 25. I really appreciate your comments and I do agree.

He would kill/die for them.

I know he feels guilt and shame- he has since this whole this began.

But you are right, now that this is a full blown PA and he is obviously in this ' honeymoon' phase he must be riddled with guilt and shame. I can see that.

But I am a bit unsure about one thing.

While I am detaching and dark ( I really have not contacted him for two weeks), and I feel relatively strong doing this ( I still need to gal), I was told I should at least send every now and then by email or text a cute picture or video of the kids of something they had done special.

I didn't want to, but I did last week because I don't want the kids and him to be estranged.

I was going to send another one today from my son's recital but am hesitant for fear of coming across as pursuing ( again) OR inflicting more guilt which will send him away further from the kids.

Am not sure....any tips?

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home