I'm back, on my own.

[canadianMrs.]

Thank you. I agree he is good. As I said, I'm good at general boundaries but need advice on specific situations. As well, I'm torn when it comes to asking for his help with the kids. I try to not involve him but with my new job starting, he is off Mondays and would like to ask him to have the kids and extra day on his weekends for July. I don't want to ask him for favors, but these are his kids too and I'm going back to work partly because of the situation he has created.

My other question is, I read the stages of MLC. Can someone go through the stages more than once. I've seen H go through replay and then depression when the effects of replay hurt him. ie. when the A was exposed, then again the kids and I moved and then again last month when I discovered multiple ow while we were piecing and ended us again/ detached. The depression lasts weeks, trying to grasp at his old life, crying etc and then back to replay. So far, each time he goes back to replay his behavior gets worse. I think this time will be different because I have no desire to be part if his life. He really is on his own. I think I'm the last one to walk away.