I think what I see in this is a quick attempt to slap together a marriage and keep it together - one that was slowly falling apart. For me, the only way to piece that back is to heal the wound. And I see that you are trying to stuff your emotions for the sake of the marriage and that's not gonna work
I think this goes for anyone. I can speak from experience. Back in 2010 when I caught my H in an emotional affair and he left. I thought I could put it behind me. After 3 weeks of separation, he moved back home. At first, I acted like nothing happened. I thought I could forget about it, so I didn't deal with it. A year later he left again. He was gone 8 months. I finally started to heal from the first emotional affair. If you think that you don't have to deal with it right now, you are wrong. Deal with it and start the healing process because it will bite you again but harder.
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I really don't know how others do it. But I strongly believe you have to feel your feelings. They're not going to go away and this is going to keep coming up - long term - until you do -
You are right about this. AMEN!
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Doing it now may just be the very best thing for your marriage. Numbing and cutting yourself off so that you ignore the past of your marriage and your anger and resentment at your husband - innocent as he may be - is NOT in my opinion the way to go.
I totally agree with you.
She is giving you some good advice. Don't ignore your feelings.
