Wow! I don't recall you ever sharing something like this from your H before. So he has the desire to love you but needs help. There seems to be love buried deep down in his heart for you after all? Who'd of thunk it?
I know you have mentioned in the past that he likes to quote biblical scripture (at least that is what I remember). As such maybe now is the time to insist on MC and more specifically, Retrouvaille. Is this something that you can pursue? MC works when both parties have a desire to improve the relationship.
Tough sitch to be in, but that note from your H seems like an opening to my untrained eyes.
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