am i better off without him?

[Brit45]

You've given me so much support in the last few days. I wanted to thank you for that!

How are you doing? Any new developments.

i honestly do not want to be their step mom anymore. i don't want to parent them or have anything more than a mutually respectful, casual relationship. i don't want to be expected to do more for them (or the rest of his family) than i would do for a visiting friend.

As they are grown ups I don't see why this would be a problem. He might be hurt by it at first if he feels like it's a rejection...but like you say counselling may help that.