Your h is relying on you to rescue him whenever he's in trouble. In order for him to grow up, he needs to learn to take care of himself. Your h needs to become a member of AAA. He can then call them to assist him.
BTW, Mlcers have a way of putting their spouses on the spot to do what they want (it's called manipulation). Sounds like you h is fairly good at it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
