Wife says it's to far gone

[shockeddad]

1. I did read divorce busting about two or three months ago, but to be honest. I was so scared and lost that I didn't do anything it said. which now I wish it would of open my eyes at that time. Right now I'm readinf DR.

2.Her complaints. She has a real hard time saying what is bothering her. During MC, she would say she don't know why she feels this way. She has said a couple things like, she feels we have grown apart, I don't get along with family members at times, I put work first, and sex. I have a high drive and she don't, shes not much into and said she really only did it because she thought thats what a wife is supose to do.

3.I have become a better father since this has happen and she even says she sees that. I have started building bridges with family and friends that I have burned, she likes that. I have let the Lord into my life and just trying to be more friendly to people and wanting to try new things.

4.We both worked till we had our first son, then she wanted to be a stay at home mom. So I was working fulltime at a hospital, part-yime at a fire department, for the state in the DNR, and at her mom's bar. I also went back to college to work on a degree. I had to work alot to keep up with the bills. Which including leaving family events at times to go to emergency calls to get hours in. After our second son turned 2, she started working at her mom's bar and I would stay home with the kids. Since this has happen, I have given up the fire department, which has been all my life and loved it. I did it to be with my kids more and show her I love her more, didn't seem to work.

5. Even with all the work and school, we still quilfied for assistance. Thats were the food stamps came in.

We both have had a problem of when things were bothering us, we just botteled it up. We never had fights. The only time we had talks, was mostly about sex. We would come up with a plan that we both liked, would be good for alittle while, than we would seem to go back to the same. She said she didn't bring other stuff up, because she said she thought it would be just like the sex talks. Be okay, then back to the same. Things have been different since she started working at the bar, I don't think it's helping. I think she has gotten to close to a so called friend. She swears she just talks to him because he is the only one she can talk to right now. I would bet the farm that nothing has happen P. 1. she really don't like sex and 2 he is 400 pounds, smokes, and smells.