Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

[timbits]

Completely understand having to handle everything. My H didn't work for years (now has a temporary job, but that ends soon) and it was incredibly stressful to be the only earner in the house. He didn't help around the house much, either. He just stayed home, depressed and pissed off. It's really hard.

I also understand not wanting to be in the marriage you had before, but not wanting a divorce. I honestly think that it comes down to if your H can provide you with the marriage you deserve? Can he do this while untreated for mental illness?

I wouldn't call him or seek him out at all. I'd wait for him to initiate contact with you and then be as pleasant as you can be, like you plan on.

I think it's a lot to do for one year, divorce, moving and new job, but if you're miserable with where you are living now, and are moving to something that makes you happy, I'd say go for it. You're not running away from your problems, you're running toward something better.